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In the October issue of ‘Essence,’ Mo’Nique reveals that she was sexually abused by her brother at the age of seven.
“I was molested by my older brother,” she tells writer Audrey Edwards during one of her most candid interviews ever. “And even when I confronted him and told my parents, he said I was lying, and nothing was really done.”
The comedian says her nasty brother molested her four times over the course of four years. He often used candy to lure her into the bathroom, where much of the abuse took place.
Her parents, she said, were in disbelief, but she didn’t hold them accountable “because me and my brother were both their children, and I just don’t know the kind of position they felt they were in.”
“My father was very upset, but it never got mentioned again. I’ll never forget my mother saying, ‘If it’s true, it will surface again,’ and I remember thinking, ‘Why would I lie? Why is there even an if in this?’ I was angry with them for so long, because I felt as if they should have seen what was happening.”
“My brother was a monster to me,” she commented. “When Lee [Daniels] would say ‘Action,’ I became my brother.”
Her brother, she said went on to serve 15 years in prison for sexually abusing another girl and never made amends for the abuse.
“He still acts like he doesn’t know what I’m talking about. So screw hurting your feelings. You need to get your feelings hurt, and you need to get some help.”
Isn’t this sad? how do you overcome sexual abuse? Leave ya comments!
9 Responses for "MO’NIQUE XPOSED: COMEDIAN REVEALS SEXUAL ABUSE IN ESSENCE!"
Such a big secret in the black family…I’m glad she spoke out but what is her speaking out doing to help the issue? If nothing, then some things are better left within the walls of the family. She went to her parents who handled it not so well… But, now what? Is she opening a house for abused girls? Does she have a hotline for girls to call? What??? If nothing, then this is TMI… Maybe come with a “if this happens to you then here is what you do” or something… Don’t just air your business for no helpful reason. Let’s say I’m a 8 yr old girl who had the same thing happen to me, her article tells me my parents may not be very helpful.. So then what is a girl to do? Don’t end the message there – provide a solution. So many girls I believe could really use the help and knowledge of what to do.
I understand your side, ceecee.
There may not be a ’suitable solution’ at the time. But there are millions of girls being molested by their own family members & totally strangers,(no matter what the race). Holding that negative energy in will only fester & make a person angry & resentful. What if the girl who he actually went to jail for didn’t tell anyone about it….then his monstrous cycle of abuse would’ve continued.
I’ve always felt that you should release it (so you can heal) & let GOD handle it. Maybe Mo’nique becoming a comedian was her way of dealing with it & just maybe young girls/boys will see what a wonderful life she went on to lead in spite of that ‘unspeakable act’… Young people think the STARS have such beautiful fairy-tale lives; and the reality is, they are just like you & I.
So I applaud Mo’ for letting us into her intimate sancutary…hopefully we will all learn something from this.
ceecee don’t be so hard on Monique. Maybe talking about it is therapeutic for her. It is NOT only the black family, abuse exists in ALL families. Maybe her coming out and talking about it will strenghthen someone who has been through this horrible situation to reach for the stars just as Monique has. October’s Essence hasn’t even come out yet, maybe Monique does provide some solutions. But solutions provided or not, people deal with hurt/pain in different ways and maybe speaking on it lifts a burden off Monique. I think her speaking on it should be applauded.
I was molested as a child and I’d never dream of telling another survivor of child abuse what to do or what not to do with their story because it’s just too personal and damaging to let others judge.
And yes it is a black family issue. Just read ceecee’s comment. This is exactly what black families think you should do after being raped by a relative. It’s disgusting and it has to stop SO IT MUST BE EXPOSED.
Not only was I molested but I also suffered the same fate as Monique being that no one gave a f*** that my uncle had raped me. Right now I am estranged from my family—particularly my physically/verbally/emotionally abusive mother who, last month, finally admitted that she didn’t believe anything she’d found out. She found out through my aunt and she still doesn’t believe it. My father passed away before my tragedy became family-fodder, THANK GOODNESS.
So judge Monique however you like, Ms. CeeCee. But know this, YOU’VE NEVER BEEN THROUGH ANYTHING REMOTELY CLOSE TO THE SUBLIME HORROR AND INDIGNITY THAT IS RAPE/MOLESTATION SO SHUT YOUR MOUTH ON THIS TOPIC.
CeeCee, sister please take heed to what the other ladies are saying to you. The very idea that we are talking about this DARK, UGLY SECRET says we are ready to comfront our past and no longer be the victim. I personally have never met a woman who has not been molested by someone; Fathers, uncles, brothers, neighbors, teachers or maybe just some old, weak, and manipulative man that preys on niave, young, and confused little girl. Remember that line in The Color Purple “A girl just ain’t safe in a house full of men-folk” my sentiments exactly.
Once I left home at 14 years old, I ran into Mr. Know what to say, he taught me how to drive, l took him to work everyday and drove myself to school in the 9th grade (had to park around the corner no one could see me driving). This man(25 yrs old) convinced me he loved me which didn’t take much and I gave into him why not? I can count on one hand how many of my male relatives didn’t try to touch me. Isn’t that just pitiful? Kudos Mo’nigue; keep it real.
First, Mo’nique is very courageous to first acknowledge what has happened to her and openly speak about it. As someone who has also experienced sexual assault, the hardest thing is being honest with yourself. I recently spoke to my family and friends about it who have all been very supportive, thank GOD, and that in itself has been therapeutic.
CeeCee have you ever experienced your own trauma and haven’t dealt with it yet? Are angry with yourself for not being able to speak about it? I can identify this anger in you as I identify it in myself. It is extremely important that as a community, especially Blk Women, we support each other and provide safe environments to openly speak about the ‘neon-pink’ elephants in our family rooms.
Peace and Blessings to you all.
Wow! I can understand what she was going through, but my thing is I am wondering is why does celebrities come forward now and say that they have been molested when they were younger. For example, I am shocked that Tyler Perry is coming out for the first time about him become sexually molested and beaten as a child.
I would just like to say that any kind of discussion on this issue is very important. The more it is discussed, the more it is less a taboo. Even the movie “Precious” was not fully released to movie theatres. It seemed to be shunned abit. Which really still cast a dark shadow on this particular subject.
Molestation happens more than people realized through family members.
I was abused coming up By my Uncle(by Marriage) with him making me touch him while his wife watched and I was 7yrs old .Im 44 now and still dream about it.I had penis dreams like for ever and I was afriad of sex for so long. I then was molested the same year from 7 to 12 until I said no more. I decided to tell someone but the molester’s mom had put it out I was a liar.So no one would belive me.So I would talk to people on the bus. I grew up to she the women in my family been beat and got into two of those realtionship. I had to break that cycle because I had adaughter and I refuse to let her grwo up to see how not to treat a woman.
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